I have a theory for the swiping behavior of women. When they swipe right, it will most likely be a match, and they mentally don't want more than X active conversations at a time. This strikes me as rational and reasonable.
For men, most swipes will not be a match, so less reason to ever think about swiping left to maintain a certain swipe pecentage.
Another theory: when you swipe and don't get a match, that could be considered a rejection and women are worse at handling rejection (probably due to never having to learn to deal with it). Men, on the other hand, have to learn to accept rejection so little is felt when almost all swipes don't match.
Most people (all sexes and genders) are bad at handling rejection, period. It’s why online dating is popular in general—a rejection over a digital medium is a lot less intimidating and less confrontational than the same in person.
The rate and experience of rejection does not seem to be symmetrical across the sexes by a significant degree. Of course nobody likes rejection, but this point doesn’t really advance the discussion.
They were responding to "women are worse at handling rejection", and if they disagree with that (as I do too) then it is advancing the conversation to say so, even though it doesn't advance a part of the conversation that specifically explains dating app use.
Men handle rejection poorly, I’ve seen it, as I’m sure we all have. Weeping, drinking, wallowing in self-pity. It can get bad.
Women handle rejection with anger, resentment, and vitriol towards the rejecting party. So much so that I’ve seen people get married and divorced because the man was basically bullied into sticking around, and she left in the end anyways. Happens all the fucking time.
most women do not approach men first; men are usually first to be rejected
This is true, but from what I've seen it's not because women are particularly scared of rejection, it's because they use men's approaches as a filter. That is, they want men to be confident enough to approach them, and charismatic enough to do it well.
That's not why I called them an incel. I called them an incel for spouting a hateful opinion as fact that makes women out to be inferior, you know, the thing incels are known for doing.
Congratulations on your shaming ad-hominem language. Your lack of any genuine counterpoint reveals your men-hating nature by your remarks, which deserve no further response.
Me calling out you for your distorted view of women === I hate men?
Solid logic. 100%. Probably the same logic that resulted in your wack determination about rejection.
PS. I'm a man. One who doesn't hate women. Or men. Not in general. I am able to hate individuals though, and their gender plays little into it, while their sweeping generalizations and hateful pseudo facts often do.
Women complain about the poor quality of conversations they encounter
We should do a study on that itself, because I think guys are having quality conversations, pulling teeth with an entitled beautiful woman they are prioritizing, and everyone else is waiting for the guy to lead and there is no bandwidth left! so guys spread themselves too thin to procedurally lead every new conversation after accumulating matches
“ Women complain about the poor quality of conversations they encounter”
From my experience in online dating there are a lot of women who expect the guy to do everything. He needs to approach and then also carry the conversation. Out of maybe 10 initial messages I received from women there was maybe 1 that was more than “Hi”.
For men, most swipes will not be a match, so less reason to ever think about swiping left to maintain a certain swipe pecentage.
Just a theory!