I understand how alarming it is when people post on such an extremely painful topic, but probably this is a place to recall the site guideline that says "Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation of what someone says, not a weaker one that's easier to criticize. Assume good faith." I can think of other things bserge might have meant.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

p.s. @dang is a no-op, so if you want to alert me/us to something, please email hn@ycombinator.com. I just happened to run across your comment.