I don't get it, am I the only hacker that ever has problems with relationships?
I've done more than my fair share of stumbling (including one divorce) and at the age of 32 only now do I feel like I am "getting it".
Nonetheless, I'd recommend the book _Conscious Loving_ by Gay and Kaithlyn Hendricks.
Instead of the superficialities preached by the Venus books, etc they get to the heart of the matter by having us examine ourselves for personal projects, secrets that we are hiding and other subconscious developments that lay at the root of our psyche. We our worlds truly are in our head and our relationships are manifestations of those thoughts. I finally found a book that helps me peal back those layers and helped me figure out why I had been fucking up over so many years...
For the same reasons, if you want to understand why relationships are hard and what is really going on between people,
The Mystery Method by Mystery - About half is a real down-to-the bits theory of love and attraction. The other half is advice about how to pick up dates at bars. I only wanted the first part, but both are fascinating. After reading this, it's like the veil was lifted and I could see the fnords.
The Game by Neil Strauss - The story of field research into practical romance by a great writer and a peek at the author of the first book above. The author masters seductive romance and discovers that it is not the same as love. In the end, though, he needed the first to have a chance at the second.
Once you accept that love and romance are hard and not free, these two books are a start at finding and building a quality relationship. Of course, you'll have to ignore that they market themselves as manuals on how to avoid one.
I've done more than my fair share of stumbling (including one divorce) and at the age of 32 only now do I feel like I am "getting it".
Nonetheless, I'd recommend the book _Conscious Loving_ by Gay and Kaithlyn Hendricks.
Instead of the superficialities preached by the Venus books, etc they get to the heart of the matter by having us examine ourselves for personal projects, secrets that we are hiding and other subconscious developments that lay at the root of our psyche. We our worlds truly are in our head and our relationships are manifestations of those thoughts. I finally found a book that helps me peal back those layers and helped me figure out why I had been fucking up over so many years...