So much discussion of loneliness on this forum makes me think y'all are in the wrong country. Feeling lonely? Come to the Philippines! Sunnier, family-oriented, cheaper, everyone wants to have a relationship with foreigners (both men and women), waterfalls, sandbars, diving, cheap food and housing, and recently 200 Mbps internet. Been married to a Filipina for 14 years. So far so good. I came here from Silicon valley as a digital nomad and still here as a father and a husband. (Been back and forth though over the years.) Being a programmer and an introvert with a family of 3 children, creates the opposite problem of having too much social interaction and not enough alone time. Recently I've been able to negotiate more alone time with my children as my youngest is 8 years old, and they have lots of cousins to okay with. Overall, I think humans need to be with each other. Living in our little boxes by ourselves staring at screens is not natural.
I'm curious what you find exploitative about that?
When I visited a south east asian country I was very surprised by the wealth disparity. However, I'm not seeing the connection between spending money as an expat with a significantly higher income compared to the rest of the country and exploitation. If anything it could be argued that you are injecting more cash into the economy from outside.
Exploitative in a sense where old dudes with questionable morals go to 3rd world countries and use their money to do questionable things like have sex with underage individuals or just exploit women in general. Women will tend to be submissive because they can get financial security. Your average joe programmer in HN isn't the usual type to go and stay in another country and try to assimilate properly. A good portion of them are outcasts or losers in their home countries (for a reason) and trying to experience rockstar life in a 3rd world country. That's a cynical take but if you ever to go Philippines/Vietnam/Indonesia you'll see what I mean and remember this comment. Obviously there are exceptional cases where people marry for "love" but usually it's for financial security.
Have you been living there? I always wonder why people have this idea of Asian women as submissive and expats being exploitative in SEA. Perhaps there are some old guys with questionable morals, but in my experience, neither Asian women are submissive, and most of the people I met (late 20s and early 30s) were normal individuals (both men and women) doing their own thing. This could be my bias, as I'm part of that age range. Anyway, I feel these generalisations are dangerous, e.g. "Obviously there may be exceptional cases where people marry for "love," but usually, it's for financial security". Does this statement not apply to any specific part of the world? If you are married, would your wife be with you only for financial reasons? Then why do you think so poorly about Asians in general.
Thailand and the Philippines are prime destinations for morally dubious westerners to find the "love" they never found at home.
Britain is full of middle aged men with 20-year younger SEA wives (many of whom look almost child-like). I'm amazed the Home Office looks at the "relationship" arrangement and allows all of the visas.
I made a password manager in Rust. It just encrypts and decrypts a file from/to ~/passwords.txt <-> ~/passwords.ryp (the encrypted form). Because the the file names are fixed it's easy to use. Just type:
ryp
If ~/passwords.txt is there, it will be encrypted. If ~/passwords.ryp is there, it will be decrypted.
The cool feature is that it checks to make sure that the password you typed in the nth time you encrypt it is the same as the 1st time. This protects you from inadvertently encrypting it with a typo if you check/update your passwords many times.
I have been experimenting with different cell phone policies over the past few years with my kids and here is what we settled on.
At our house, we have 6 children ranging in ages from 7-12 (3 of them are mine). No cell phones allowed Mon-Fri, but on Saturday and Sunday, they can have their phones from 2pm-9pm. We sleep at 9pm everyday. Sometimes during the week I'll let them watch a movie. Also, if they want to use their phone for learning something new like oragami, a piano tune or how to draw, then I let them use it for an hour or however long they need it as long as they are responsible.
The result is lots of imaginative play time like fashion shows, disco parties and pretend school. There is a lot of time for studying and playing instruments. All the kids were "A" students this last quarter.
I wonder if a crypto-based email system would solve these problems. With crypto, you have cryptographically secure identities, and if you had to pay for sending emails, this would deter unlimited indiscriminate spam.
That's what crypto currency-based distributed media systems are for. Examples: STEEMIT, STORJ, TRX, etc. There is no central authority who has the power to censor content as they please. I don't know which of those (or if there exists one which) would be appropriate for porn, but there probably is one. If anybody knows please let me know.
